tracking numbers

"I think we'll date sooner if we focus on everything else, sort of like how UPS always shows up when you're in the bathroom."

An element of truth exists in this statement as it does seem UPS/DHL/FedEx/delivery service of your choice does seem to show up more quickly if you're not just sitting around staring out the window wondering when they'll arrive. That being said & while it is largely subconscious, you do make some preparations to receive your box. You make sure you're home, you probably make sure you have some sort of clothing on, you shovel the walk if it has been snowing, you check the tracking number to make sure it is to arrive on the day you expected it. As nice as it would be, I'm not suggesting that future spouses should have tracking numbers. Having faith in God's plan for you is so important, but that doesn't mean you should be off singing in the shower completely oblivious to the potential arrival. Many of the essential steps toward walking down the aisle occur long before bended knees & engagement rings, flowers & dinners, furtive glances & flirty smiles. In fact the preparation for marriage begins before you even meet that special someone for the first time. And a lot of it is not sitting around waiting for your life to begin or for someone to "complete you." It's about enjoying life. It's about recognizing that it's okay to desire marriage, but that only God can make you content. And it's about honesty with yourself about who you are and what you want and being able to be honest with others. It's about understanding the habits and behaviors you have that could be damaging to a relationship and a willingness to work toward positive change. So no I'm not sitting around waiting for the UPS man to show (unless he's cute & single ;) ) but I am making sure snow doesn't obstruct the path. This doesn't mean that my heart is accessible to anyone, it just means that I am open to a relationship & ready for when the right guy wants to walk up and knock on my door.

contributing

If you would like to be a guest author on this page, let me know. As blessed with wisdom & insight on this subject as I am, a slight possibility exists that one or two of you may have ideas that never crossed my mind. Crazy, I know but who am I to ignore statistical improbabilities? Seriously though, I'd love to open this up for other thoughts & ideas, so if you have something that simply cannot be contained in the comments section or if you want to bring up something I haven't, let me know & we'll see where we can go with it.

There has been a lot of stuff floating around my head lately related to dating. I have often posted those things on my original flavor blog, but I decided to start a separate blog devoted solely to the topic. The main reason for doing this is that I can write about it here all I want & if it's not a particular topic that interests you, you can just stick to the regular ole blog & pretend this one doesn't exist. Though, it does exist and too much denial is unhealthy, so be careful. In an effort to make this first post on the date-a-blog somewhat related to the topic, here's a great quote from Gilmore Girls that I'm pretty sure more guys need to hear. This is from a scene where Luke is listening to some relationship self-help tapes. Yes, it's a bit cheesy, but I really wonder what would happen if guys would seriously ask themselves these things . . .

Whose phone calls or visits are never unwanted or too long? Do you see her face? Who would you most like to have in your life to ward off moments of loneliness? Do you see her face? When you travel, who would make your travels more enjoyable? Do you see her face? When you're in pain, who would you most like to comfort you? Do you see her face? When something wonderful happens in your life -- a promotion at work, a successful refinancing -- who do you want to share the news with? Do you see her face? Whose face appears to you, my friend? Whose face?